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 I hope my legacy as a
teacher of negotiation

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is somebody that is remembered
just who helped a lot of people

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have smoother lives,
have more enjoyable life,

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get more out of life, whatever
it is that they wanted to do.

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Maybe they just want to
go surfing all the time.

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It doesn't matter.

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It helped them have the courage
to go ahead and navigate

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that and go out and do it
and live a fantastic life,

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look back on our life and
have it be an amazing story.

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One of the reasons I love
teaching people negotiation,

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it's because I hate bullies,
and this gives people

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power in the face of a bully.

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Why do I hate bullies so much?

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You know, I search my
mind for that a lot.

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I got a really bad
reaction to bullies.

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I mean, I want to go after them.

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I think it was--

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I look back on it.

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When I was about nine,
there was a neighborhood

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bullies, scared
the hell out of me,

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scared the hell out
of me a couple times,

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called me by my house,
scared me to death.

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I remember being the most
scared I ever was in my life.

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Called me at the local town pool
a few days again after that,

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scared the hell out of me.

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The first time he
called me, it was--

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we were playing a game where all
these kids were playing a game,

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and he made up the
story about how

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that somehow I'd broken
the law, and he stopped me,

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and he grabbed my bike,
and he held onto me

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and explained to
me how I was going

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to be taken to jail
for breaking a law

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and that I was going to be
executed and I would be killed.

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And it terrified me.

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And then at the time
that he was doing

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that, the way that we used to--

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the way I used to be
signaled by my mom

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that it was time to come home--

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I had a stay-at-home mom,
and it was dinner time,

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and we were in the neighborhood.

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She had a whistle that she
blew, and she blew the whistle,

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and we knew it was
time to come home.

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And she blew the whistle,
and he wouldn't let me go.

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And I had never, ever not
been able to get back.

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And that was the most
afraid I ever was.

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Why did it make me so emotional
to go back to that place?

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I don't know.

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I haven't-- I think--

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yeah, protecting people
has always mattered.

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It always mattered to me that
I would have the opportunity

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to protect people
or save people.

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The protect and serve
part of law enforcement

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always meant something to me.

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I just wanted to--

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somehow the opportunity
to get the bad guys

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has always meant a lot to me.

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MAN: You already know
that you trust me.

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You can tell that I'm
being straight with you.

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Why don't you meet me outside?

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You gonna-- you
gonna come out now?

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MAN: Yeah, I wanna
end this shit, man.

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MAN: OK.

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