1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,970 [MUSIC PLAYING] 2 00:00:08,910 --> 00:00:11,360 I hope my legacy as a teacher of negotiation 3 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:15,620 is somebody that is remembered just who helped a lot of people 4 00:00:15,620 --> 00:00:19,160 have smoother lives, have more enjoyable life, 5 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:22,950 get more out of life, whatever it is that they wanted to do. 6 00:00:22,950 --> 00:00:24,950 Maybe they just want to go surfing all the time. 7 00:00:24,950 --> 00:00:26,000 It doesn't matter. 8 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:28,370 It helped them have the courage to go ahead and navigate 9 00:00:28,370 --> 00:00:32,780 that and go out and do it and live a fantastic life, 10 00:00:32,780 --> 00:00:35,940 look back on our life and have it be an amazing story. 11 00:00:35,940 --> 00:00:40,340 One of the reasons I love teaching people negotiation, 12 00:00:40,340 --> 00:00:46,180 it's because I hate bullies, and this gives people 13 00:00:46,180 --> 00:00:49,570 power in the face of a bully. 14 00:00:49,570 --> 00:00:51,680 Why do I hate bullies so much? 15 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:53,470 You know, I search my mind for that a lot. 16 00:00:53,470 --> 00:00:55,510 I got a really bad reaction to bullies. 17 00:00:55,510 --> 00:00:58,410 I mean, I want to go after them. 18 00:00:58,410 --> 00:00:59,640 I think it was-- 19 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:00,810 I look back on it. 20 00:01:00,810 --> 00:01:03,020 When I was about nine, there was a neighborhood 21 00:01:03,022 --> 00:01:04,482 bullies, scared the hell out of me, 22 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:06,700 scared the hell out of me a couple times, 23 00:01:06,700 --> 00:01:09,180 called me by my house, scared me to death. 24 00:01:09,180 --> 00:01:12,300 I remember being the most scared I ever was in my life. 25 00:01:12,300 --> 00:01:17,080 Called me at the local town pool a few days again after that, 26 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:19,450 scared the hell out of me. 27 00:01:19,450 --> 00:01:22,630 The first time he called me, it was-- 28 00:01:22,630 --> 00:01:25,450 we were playing a game where all these kids were playing a game, 29 00:01:25,450 --> 00:01:28,030 and he made up the story about how 30 00:01:28,030 --> 00:01:31,180 that somehow I'd broken the law, and he stopped me, 31 00:01:31,180 --> 00:01:33,130 and he grabbed my bike, and he held onto me 32 00:01:33,130 --> 00:01:34,960 and explained to me how I was going 33 00:01:34,960 --> 00:01:36,730 to be taken to jail for breaking a law 34 00:01:36,730 --> 00:01:39,670 and that I was going to be executed and I would be killed. 35 00:01:39,670 --> 00:01:42,050 And it terrified me. 36 00:01:42,047 --> 00:01:43,627 And then at the time that he was doing 37 00:01:43,630 --> 00:01:46,080 that, the way that we used to-- 38 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:47,720 the way I used to be signaled by my mom 39 00:01:47,718 --> 00:01:49,008 that it was time to come home-- 40 00:01:49,010 --> 00:01:51,090 I had a stay-at-home mom, and it was dinner time, 41 00:01:51,087 --> 00:01:52,417 and we were in the neighborhood. 42 00:01:52,420 --> 00:01:55,060 She had a whistle that she blew, and she blew the whistle, 43 00:01:55,060 --> 00:01:57,010 and we knew it was time to come home. 44 00:01:57,010 --> 00:01:59,650 And she blew the whistle, and he wouldn't let me go. 45 00:01:59,650 --> 00:02:06,180 And I had never, ever not been able to get back. 46 00:02:06,180 --> 00:02:11,950 And that was the most afraid I ever was. 47 00:02:16,545 --> 00:02:18,925 Why did it make me so emotional to go back to that place? 48 00:02:18,920 --> 00:02:19,460 I don't know. 49 00:02:19,462 --> 00:02:22,822 I haven't-- I think-- 50 00:02:22,820 --> 00:02:24,780 yeah, protecting people has always mattered. 51 00:02:24,780 --> 00:02:28,680 It always mattered to me that I would have the opportunity 52 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:30,720 to protect people or save people. 53 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:34,340 The protect and serve part of law enforcement 54 00:02:34,342 --> 00:02:35,552 always meant something to me. 55 00:02:35,550 --> 00:02:37,980 I just wanted to-- 56 00:02:37,980 --> 00:02:42,150 somehow the opportunity to get the bad guys 57 00:02:42,150 --> 00:02:44,880 has always meant a lot to me. 58 00:02:44,875 --> 00:02:47,355 [MUSIC PLAYING] 59 00:02:47,350 --> 00:02:50,020 MAN: You already know that you trust me. 60 00:02:50,020 --> 00:02:52,270 You can tell that I'm being straight with you. 61 00:02:52,270 --> 00:02:54,650 Why don't you meet me outside? 62 00:02:54,650 --> 00:02:56,680 You gonna-- you gonna come out now? 63 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:58,360 MAN: Yeah, I wanna end this shit, man. 64 00:02:58,360 --> 00:02:59,910 MAN: OK.